मैं किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति से शादी कर रही थी जिससे मैं प्यार करती थी क्योंकि मैं उसे खोना नहीं चाहती थी; मुझे इसमें कुछ भी गलत नहीं लगा।
I was marrying someone I loved because I didn't want to lose them; I didn't see anything wrong with that.
I was marrying someone I loved because I didn't want to lose them; I didn't see anything wrong with that.
मैंने इस शादी को एक फिल्टर की तरह इस्तेमाल किया। अगर वह लड़का दनूवादी (रूढ़िवादी) होता, जेंडर-न्यूट्रल शादी में विश्वास नहीं रखता था या मेरे कामों को गलत मानता था, तो मुझे तुरंत पता चल जाता था कि वह मेरे लिए नहीं है। सच कहूँ तो यह तरीका बहुत मददगार साबित हुआ।
I used the marriage as a filter. If the guy was conservative, didn't believe in gender-neutral marriage or thought what I did was wrong, then I immediately knew they weren't for me. That was actually very helpful.
I used the marriage as a filter. If the guy was conservative, didn't believe in gender-neutral marriage or thought what I did was wrong, then I immediately knew they weren't for me. That was actually very helpful.
एक जोड़े के रूप में आप दोनों में से किसी को भी दूसरे के साथ रहने के लिए खुद को बदलने की जरूरत नहीं है। चाहे बात दूसरे लोगों के साथ संबंध बनाने की हो या एकनिष्ठता (मोनोगॉमी) की। मुख्य बात यह है कि आपको अपने बालों को काटने, अपने कपड़े पहनने के ढंग या अपनी पहचान बदलने जैसी बातें करके अपनी अलग जिंदगियों के बीच समझौता करने की जरूरत न पड़े। जिस लड़के के साथ मैं सो रही थी, उसके साथ शादी मुझे एक ऐसा इंसान बनने के लिए कह रही थी जो मैं असल में थी ही नहीं।
Neither of youIn the couple have to change in order to be with the other. Whether that's having sex with other people or monogamy. The main thing is not having to reconcile your different lives like cutting your hair, changing the way you dress, who you are. The marriage with the guy I was sleeping with was asking me to be someone who wasn't me.
Neither of youIn the couple have to change in order to be with the other. Whether that's having sex with other people or monogamy. The main thing is not having to reconcile your different lives like cutting your hair, changing the way you dress, who you are. The marriage with the guy I was sleeping with was asking me to be someone who wasn't me.